I’m often asked where the antidote roles came from, or how they came into being. I’d like to take a minute to share with you a personal story – the story behind the story that is told in my book, The Power of TED*.
Recall a time when you, or someone you know, related as a Challenger. What was the learning and growth they were calling forth? How did they challenge in a way that reflected an intention for learning? Keeping FISBE in mind, what do Challengers focus on; what is their inner state; and what kinds of behavior do they exhibit?
Recall a time in your life when you were faced with a Challenger that was uninvited and unwelcome. Again, this might have been a person or a health challenge or an accident, or some other situation. Rather than remembering them (or it) as a Persecutor, identify at least 3 things you learned from that experience. That will help you shift your focus.
Recall a time when you, or someone you know, related to you from the Coach role. What questions did they ask that helped you clarify your outcome or commit to actions toward what you wanted to create? Keeping FISBE in mind, what do Coaches focus on; what is their inner state; and what behaviors do they exhibit?